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how to become a better you

Becoming a Better You in 21 Days

It has been quite some time folks since I have written a post. So much has happened in my life. From a new job I was offered to my boyfriend leaving me to Dubai, there has been some movement. I have focused a lot on becoming a better me. What does that entail? Well I put more energy into the things and people I enjoy the most in my life. I am ready to share them now since I have had some things occur. I created this fabulous list that you can follow for the next 21 days. I challenge you to start tomorrow and start with the first one which is to be grateful for what you have in life. Recognize the small things and you will see how privileged we are all. Then continue down the list til you go through almost a month of becoming a better person. Try it and let me know what you think!

Day 1 – Be Grateful

Day 2 – Stop the Judging

Day 3 – Be Compassionate

Day 4 – Simplify Your Life (Get rid of all the unnecessary things that stress you out. Is it your phone? The clutter in your room? The overflow of ads in your inbox? Clean it all up!)

Day 5 – Enjoy each Moment

Day 6 – Cherish your Relationships

Day 7 – Give Give Give (Stop being selfish and start helping others)

Day 8 – Compliment Others

Day 9 – Find your Passion

Day 10 – Seeking Fun

Day 11 – Do Something Different

Day 12 – Make someone smile

Day 13 – Focus on the Now

Day 14 – Exercise

Day 15 – Healthy Eating

Day 16 – Ignore the Negativity

Day 17 – Be the Bigger Person ( Take a step back and just let those childish things go)

Day 18 – Forgive

Day 19 – Humor it up

Day 20 – Don’t be selfish

Day 21 – Pray/Meditate



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Like with anything on social media, the only way to get noticed is by putting yourself out there a lot. Sounds kind of funny but with anybody who has a site wants to attract viewers to hear their story. Since joining the blogging community, I realized that there are so many supporters out there. I got the chance to attend a blogging conference called Go Blog Social which was co-founded by a close friend of mine who has her own blog ( It was a two day conference that bloggers from all over the U.S would sign up to attend in Kansas City and listen to experienced bloggers or e-commerce gurus speak about their road to success. I met some fascinating bloggers who wrote about a whole variety of topics: fashion, interior designing, photography, food, motivation, fitness, and general lifestyle. It was fun! This was definitely a way to get insight into other ideas and how other bloggers reach out to their audiences. I even won a free business strategy session with the successful company that helps brand small businesses called With Grace and Gold!

How to Network with Other Bloggers

It was fun chatting with this gal here who has her own fashion blog called BordeauxBlvd. 
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Over 200 ladies joined the conference!


Jenny Ching Lily Jane

There was a chance to win a free Lily Jane bag if you posted a pic on Instagram. Go ahead and like my pic here! I do have to say that my girlfriend is awesome at taking pics of me at all these types of events. Love her! There were also other vendors such as Lumene that featured great Vitamin C skin care products and media company called Pollinate Media that were there as well!

Lily Jane Purses


Go Blog Social PresentersGo Blog Social Set UpGo Blog Social TableGo Blog Social

All the tables were just set up so freakin cute.

Jenny Ching Photos

I had just created my blog cards to hand out and was so excited that I had them to pass around! I had such a great experience meeting all these connections. So to really network with other bloggers out there, it really helps to attend a blogger conference. Because if you are a blogger then you know it can be a lonely journey sitting behind that laptop at home or coffee shops. So get out there and go meet some new faces! It makes it really fun to have met that person you normally read about online.


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The Best Instagram Accounts to Follow

As I continue down my blogging journey, I have come across the most creative go-getters out there. From the fashionistas that flaunt amazing outfits in the most scenic areas to the travelers that dare to seek new heights (literally). I would consider browsing through Instagram a hobby of mine. There are so many inspirational accounts out there. Not to mention I have advanced in my photography skills just by following these individuals I find amazing at how they portray their interests. Check out the top Instagram accounts that I follow. Of course don’t forget to follow me as I better my skills in photography! These are the categories I share on my blog, so why not show a little love for those that love what I love?!

Best Instagram Accounts to Follow - Bali


  1. AFAR – A community of travel enthusiasts.
  2. Cole Rise – One of the best…
  3. Murad Osmann – A guy and his wife traveling the world together
  4. Kirsten Alana – All. Over. The. Place.
  5. Nicole Warne – A realm of vivid color and endless possibilities (aka garypeppergirl).


Best Instagram Accounts to Follow - Alice Gao


  1. Alice Gao – NYC-based food photographer. More than just food.
  2. Ashley Rodriguez – Creator of Not Without Salt.
  3. Diane Cu – Food and other fun stuff.
  4. Njinla – Awesome food places in L.A
  5. Pheebsfoods – All about the berries, nuts, and healthy shizz

Best Instagram Accounts to Follow - BaseBodyBabes


1. Amanda Bisk – Former Australian pole vaulter

2. MsJeanettejenkins – Trainer and Nike Athlete

3. JenSelter – Bad ass fitness girl

4. Basebodybabes – Two sisters rocking it in fitness

5. MassieArias – Her fitness journey is inspiring

Best Instagram Accounts to Follow - BKstreetArt


  1. Brooklyn Street Art – Leading a conversation about art in the streets.
  2. Jose Parla – Always transitory.
  3. TravelWriteDraw: Fashion illustrator that travels all over the world to live sketch fashion shows

Best Instagram Accounts to Follow - SongofStyle


  1. Aimee Song – Founder of Song of Style.
  2. This Is Glamorous – Just what it sounds like.
  3. Sincerely Jules – Latina Fashionista in L.A.
  4. Andrearthur – Fashion Photographer
  5. Tuulavintage – fellow blogger



The Process of Finding Yourself: A Simple Guide

The Process of Finding Yourself: A Simple Guide. I heard that great writers are great because they have found themselves. They have found their own voice. I am completely jealous because I am not quite there yet. That was one of the main reasons for starting this blog. I wanted to “find” myself. What does that even mean to find yourself? There are so many life experiences that take you on an incredible journey. Whether it’s good or bad, we live and we learn. Yes keeping positive does help you appreciate what you have but what about those not so positive challenges that face us? That is what takes us closer into finding ourselves.

Oh love that makes the world go around….love is something we wait and search for. Dreaming of that perfect moment to discover our passion or even finding that special someone. We never imagine the heartbreak and disappointment because that is terrifying. It is the pain of love that truly changes us. The losing of love that makes us who we are.

Life is complicated sometimes. There is promise though to opening up to new beginnings. Everything happens for a reason and you just have to take those unique chances in life.

It seems that when you step up in life to invite change, life has a way of guiding you to exactly where you need to be, with whom you need to be with, and hearing what you need to hear.- Tiny Buddha Blog

I don’t know where you are in your life but sometimes reevaluating your happiness in life and acting on it can shake things up for the better. Here is some guidance if you feel stuck or just want to discover more passion for yourself. I know I am working on these currently.

1. Stop Thinking and Just Do It

Take a risk. Do something impulsive. I know I tend to over analyze my situations and I am working on just doing as I feel. Take that trip to that country you have always wanted to visit. I remember doing that in college. I was in Costa Rica for four months and I remember sitting on the beach telling myself that I needed to do another semester of this traveling fun. So I decided to apply for some study abroad scholarships and work more hours at the bar to make this happen. That next semester I was in France and I ended up exploring Europe those four months visiting Italy, Spain, and Switzerland.

While people were encouraging me to go take that semester to complete classes for my Masters in Accounting, that definitely wasn’t my passion to continue the studying. Something in my gut told me to take that trip to Europe instead of following my colleagues down that path. At that time I was stressed and scared about my future. I was scared that I was doing something completely crazy and would be way behind others in my academic path. I felt I might waste that year of traveling for building my knowledge to get into a top notch firm but once I landed in Paris, those worries went away and everything felt just right.

When I look back, I was so glad I went with my gut and enjoyed my last year in college traveling the world. Those were the best times of my life. So while this example applied to taking that impulse trip, anything could be applied such as taking that dream job offer, marking off bucket list desires, or even simply going to that one unique event others never thought you would go to.

Just live damn it. You have to make mistakes to discover what you like and dislike. Doing the same things won’t help you explore your boundaries.

2. Let Go of the Unnecessary

Let go of unnecessary things or people in your life. It can also mean to simply quit something in your life. Winners never quit right? Well only when it pertains to you owning that passion and pressing forth with it. Not if you realize that you absolutely dread doing something and keep going. What’s the point of doing that?

Make a list of the things you commit to at work, family, and social life. Notice what things you can let go to make life a little less stressful and more enjoyable.

The things that bring you happiness, that wake you up in the morning, that you lay awake thinking about at night—do those things.

The things that weigh you down, that seem like a drag, that steal life from you and make you angry—quit those.

As a dear friend would always jokingly say: KISS! Keep It Simple Stupid 🙂 It really isn’t hard. May be easier said than done but you can do it. Again, don’t let the peer pressure of what others say steer you in the wrong direction.

3.Socialize with Strangers

Everyone has a story, an opinion, and an insight into opportunities. It is about the connections you make in life. When I moved to Kansas City, I was terrified of not knowing anybody. Quickly that wasn’t the case as I met people at work, joined meet ups and intramural sports leagues, and found networking events to be brave and attend. There is this really neat site I discovered when I moved called Meet Up:Find Your People. I was thrilled to find groups of similar interests. People are out there that want to talk about the things you like to talk about and I was excited to find this avenue to meet others.

A couple of weeks ago I even Googled art events in my city. Found a free tour that would take me on a walk around the city that explored artist galleries and studios. I met a fantastic vision artist and it wasn’t long and we hit off the conversation into similar things we enjoyed. A fashion art show and dinner later, it wasn’t long and I was already finding others that talked about things I enjoyed which was art. I got the chance to go to a poetry slam event that I have always wanted to attend to support a stranger (now I call friend) who shared his absolutely creative writing.

Something interesting to do which I learned how to do eventually is to go to events alone. Although it is always fun to have a friend tag along, it is a even more rewarding sometimes to try something alone. It forces you to meet someone and talk about the things you are interested in. Try it, I dare you.

4. Don’t Put Your Dreams on Hold

Well if we are trying to find ourselves and discover who we are, we might not exactly know what our dreams are but for some you might already know. At least evaluating the things you enjoy in your life will help you down a path to finding it. For me it is starting my own business. I want to own something and have it revolve around the things I enjoy in life. I have started in that process of starting my business but for others you might be putting on the excuses of time and money. That is why you let go of the things that might be taking away that time for you to achieve those dreams. Money comes and goes. There is always a way to find it though. A good friend of mine was so persistent in finding funds to start her business. She didn’t let anyone distract her from her passion. A couple years later and she managed to present to investors to get $80,000 for her idea. A dream come true for her and I am excited to see her take on that journey. I first hand witnessed the tough work she did to achieve those funds. It didn’t come easy because she came from money or anything. She had to put in major effort to meet those key people to get her to even pitch the idea.

If you enjoy doing it, then it shouldn’t be hard to achieve those dreams. Just keeping on keeping on. The good that will come of it is you enjoying life doing it. That is the most important.

 5. Do Something Different

Try something that you wouldn’t typically do. You can’t know you don’t like something if you don’t try it. We are constantly changing to explore who we are so just keep taking on these tiny adventures. Try that new cultural restaurant, go dancing, or visit that local store. Go on Groupon or LivingSocial and explore what different things you can do. Broaden your horizons 🙂

I noticed in my life that the most random things I do differently are the fun stories I definitely remember and share with people.


Finding myself isn’t easy but it definitely is a fun process as I explore new opportunities and meet new people. Something wise I heard was that if you don’t define the things that make you who you are, someone will find their way to define who you are. Don’t let that happen. It’s easy for that to happen if you care about what others think, but be bold enough to say what you feel. Be unique and that simply means to stand up for what you believe in. Makes life a little easier when you are proud to say it out loud. There is always something to learn so like that old adage, life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it!


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#NoMoreExcuses – No Excuse Mom

She’s a mother of two adorable children, a beautiful supportive wife, and just an all around pleasant gal to be around with. I’ve known Kay Gonzales for over a year and there wasn’t a time we weren’t either laughing together or seeking some neat fitness program to conquer. I decided to write about her because I wanted to start her in my inspirational #NoMoreExcuses series. I love meeting people who inspire me to be better. Surrounding myself around people who have reached their own successes is what we should be reading about more often. Every one has their unique journey and what good is it to just hide the amazing stories of people just like us?

So I asked Kay a few questions about her health and fitness. I was inspired to see her achieve her crazy running goals while juggling around two cutesy rascals at home. Of course, as always, she was thrilled to share her story and why she makes time to keep on running. I appreciate the time she takes to not only share the running events she participates in but she always strives to motivate everyone that will listen. So whether you are a mom, student, or strapping man there are no excuses to achieving what you want to get out in life. It’s all on you. Check out all the half marathons and full marathons Kay has participated in. She doesn’t even mention the 5K runs but there a ton that she finished.



Name: Kay Gonzales

Currently Reside: Olathe, KS


Proud job title: Happy Mother of 2 Beautiful Children




  • Tell us your story that led you to doing what you are passionate about in running.


10 years ago, a good friend of mine inspired me to run my first full marathon (26.2 miles).  She had just ran her first marathon in Bermuda and motivated me.  I wanted to take a new challenge so I ran the San Diego Rock ‘n’ Roll Full Marathon and raised $4,000 to support American Stroke Association.  I ran the marathon in honor of my friend who suffered a mild stroke.  After completing the San Diego Marathon, six months later, I ran another full marathon in Overland Park.


  • Why do you like running?

I love running because it keeps me fit and active. Every race is a new challenge and adventure.  I run before anyone is awake in the house so it allows “me” time.  Running keeps me positive and makes me happy.  I feel a great sense of accomplishment after every run.  I have met so many good friends through running.


  • When is your next race?

Las Vegas Rock ‘n’ Roll Half Marathon on November 16th.


  • What is some advice you can give to those mothers out there when pursuing their fitness goals?

Set goals if you want to be successful.  That’s what will motivate you.  Allow time for yourself.  Just go out there and do it!


  • Tell us about your proudest accomplishments in fitness.

I am proud to say that I have ran 2 Full Marathons and 10 Half Marathons.

My 8 year old daughter, Gabby just ran her first 5K this weekend.  I’m such a proud mom knowing that I’m a role model for my kids. They know that mommy runs and gets excited when I bring a medal home.







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